“Are you sure about your decision?”
“Kids, making dumb choices!”
“Youngsters with no future goals.”
The stereotype about getting married young
Above are some stereotypes someone has to face about getting married young. Or in other words, you will be considered answerable for planning the early marriage at 20-something. As a result, whether you find “the one” you want to spend the rest of your life with, you can not pursue an early marriage these days. Or at least will have to face difficulty in doing so.
But had no one ever married in their 20’s before? Nah, man! It was a tradition and a cultural thing. According to the stats of median age (at first marriage) in the US and another research of Pew Research Center, in 1960, the median age for the first marriage was 20 and 23 for the women and men respectively. What is it now? Well, 27 for women and 29 for men. So, you see? Traditions and norms have been changing since forever. However, the fact that remains constant is love. Therefore, if you have found your love and you are confident about your decision, that’s the perfect time for marriage. Let it be 20 or 40, because ‘age is just a number’ is a cliche but is true.
But in case if you are looking for some motivation or guidance; the following are 8 ultimate benefits of getting married young.
When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.When Harry Met Sally
You will grow together
What is more beautiful than growing up with a person you love? When everyone would be struggling to find the real one, you would be stable. Also getting married young or getting married in your 20’s, psychologically helps you. Because at that young age your mind is not fully mature. Therefore, you have more capability to develop new habits and compromising with the old ones. So, with the marriage in your early 20’s you can better adjust with your companion. However, at the age of 30, most people have developed strong habits and mature minds. Consequently, it becomes difficult to compromise on them. But we all know how important compassion and compromise are in any relationship.
You both would have less emotional baggage
We love someone and get a heartbreak, then fall for someone else, broken again. A reasonably normal person gets in a serious relationship once a year or every other year (in the countries where relationships and dating are normal). So, until 30 they have emotional baggage of more than a decade. Due to their previous disappointments, heartbreaks, and trust issues, it becomes difficult to trust again.
Getting married young saves you from this. You don’t have jealousy about the past relationships of your partner. You can start together fresh, lively, and full of hope and have a forever romantic relationship.
Getting married young = A happier marriage
No, I’m not saying that the converse of it is also true i.e. late marriage = an unhappy marriage. It’s always a personal choice. But according to a study on martial success, getting married young at ages 22-25 results in happy marriages. I think that it can be due to many reasons. Firstly, you don’t have those high hopes built in the years of waiting for a “perfect one”. Hence, you do compromise where needed. Secondly, you have not developed the unchangeable habits. And also, you do have less emotional baggage. Moreover, in the early ’20s men and women are more enthusiastic, positive, and lively too. And that can result in the happiest and strong, long-term marriages. However, we can achieve real happiness in many other ways.
You have high chances of getting married young to the most compatible person
You will have a happy & compatible marriage only if you marry between 20 to 25 otherwise not. Haha just kidding ;). You may find a compatible partner later on too, but the research about martial success shows that you will likely marry someone most compatible in your early 20’s. And it makes sense too. Because you often find your partner in 20-something from high school, college, or some extracurricular activities. And that’s the time when you have people around you who have the same interests, goals, and backgrounds. Rather than wandering on some dating apps maybe. So, most probably you will find the peanut butter to your jelly at a young age.
You have time to sort out your life, together
Getting married young gives you the space of a lot of time. You don’t have to hurry to make children and can give more time to building your relationship and marriage. Moreover, you have more time to keep space in children, which is important too.
At the age of 30, most people have a busy business or work schedule. And then the rushing married life’s responsibilities make things even more difficult. Getting married young will save you from that.
You will have support to rely on, during stressing 20’s
We know how stressful and harsh our 20’s can be. A lot of school work, finding and leaving jobs (let’s include getting fired in this), and stress of financial instability. So, in all this drama you will not have to swipe left and right to have someone to vent your heart out. Rather you will have someone at your home, to go to every night. Someone who will listen to you and be there when you need them. They will be your support and you will be theirs. Making a rather calming and lovely 20’s.
You can become more financially stable
Everything aside, getting married young would save you from giving a huge wedding. Since you know a lesser number of people, and they know that you’re still a student or financially developing. And that would be understandable. But the good news is, that Emory University Survey shows that the budget of a marriage is directly proportional to the divorce rate. The $1000 marriages associate with a lower divorce rate than the $10,000 marriages.
Moreover, getting married young can make you more financially stable. The research shows that marriage can increase 50 to 100 percent income and 400 to 600 percent net wealth. This can happen because you become more cautious and creative about finance after marriage. And you both try to have more income for your future. Is not that great?
Getting married young results in better health
When you have your life partner depending on you, you become more cautious about your health. You drive safely, consume less alcohol, and party less. This doesn’t mean that marriage in your 20’s (20-something) would kill your enjoyment. Rather you will have a best friend to enjoy and share your joys with.
Also, it gives you health benefits for conceiving children. Moreover, a study shows that the children of older fathers are at a higher risk of physical and mental disorders than the children of younger fathers. Hence, getting married young allows you to enjoy the best of your health together. You can play together and with your kids without health issues that come with the mid or older age.
So, should everyone start getting married young? Or is it compulsory to get married in your early 20’s? No mam/sir! Marriage is quite a personal thing. You may feel ready to marry someone when you’re 19. And you might not feel ready even in your 30’s. And that is perfectly fine. We all have our own clocks.
However, the point is that early marriage is worth it. But your job doesn’t end by getting married young only. You will have to work on nurturing the relationship now and then. You will have to compromise and plan for it to work long. And you will have to do the same in any relationship.
Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven
(And if you wonder why we even need to love someone? Here are two logical reasons )
So, if you think he is the butter to your bread. Or the other way if you believe that she is the yin to your yang. And at the same time, you both feel ready to get married, getting married young is perfect for you. Go for that.
Got stories to tell us about your marriage? Or you know some more benefits of early marriages? The comment section is open for you. Leave a comment below, and I’ll love to read and reply. <3